What if catching up with friends could be more than cliff notes and personal updates? What if catch-ups were magical, psychological, and emotional?
Here are a few of my favourite spells to play:
For old friends…
- What’s changing in these days?
- We have 1.5 hours together today—what would make this time exquisite for you?
- If you’re writing a book of your life, what would be the name of this current chapter?
- One year from now we’ll be popping a bottle of champagne. What will we be celebrating?
For new people at parties…
- NAME, I’d really love to have a meaningful conversation with you. Are you up for that?
- Tell me 2 or 3 things that you know a lot about—not just intellectually, but experientially. It might not be what you’re passionate about. I love asking questions about those things, and I can walk away from this dinner with a lot of learnings.
Now, this might be jarring. So a little softener: “Before we jump in, I want to propose a game. Would you be keen to try it?”
To better relationships.
