The environment influence us more than we think.
Two weeks ago, I was out with some friends and pointed out a ramen shop.
“Have you tried it before?” I asked.
“No, not yet but I want to!” my friend replied eagerly.
“Why didn’t you?”
“Jake (her fiancé) doesn’t want to eat anything. He’s fasting”.
“But he is okay to hang out while you eat, right? He does that most of the time,” I said.
Upon probing, it turned out that she did not indulge in the ramen. She felt guilty because her fiance did not want to eat with her. Even though her fiance explicitly says that he doesn’t judge her, it turns out, she judges herself.
Just by being around others, we subconsciously take on people’s values and use that to judge ourselves.
The good news is that everyone has a choice. Turn it off. Walk away. Clear the decks. Then, from an empty place, we can build our mise en place, piece by piece.
Today is just as good a day to get started. Choose your circle. Choose your outcomes.