A hard thing to say and admit.
Sure, there are benefits to an accurate view of the world. But remember the time that you were wrong. Waving the white flag of surrender. The emotional labour we expand to come to that.
Can sorry be a weapon?
In a long-standing argument (where you just want to move on), consider that there might be something that you are missing.
In this case, go first. Sorry, you’re right. Help me understand where you are coming from?
It brings the posture of openness and curiosity. An invitation for understanding, turning a conflict into a conversation.
You might end up disagreeing over a point. But now, you see what they see and learn their story. You have earned an understanding to convince better.
You might even be right in the first place. But now, you just save yourself weeks of made-up mental argument. A cheap weapon, all things considered.
Now with more power, what can you be sorry for?
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The photo was taken in Tepito, Mexico City.
