Of course, you want friends that are happy, wealthy and smart. Millionaires with yachts.
After all, you are the average of the 5 people you hang out with.
One way is to get into those circles is to hustle, pitch and push, and get someone to let you in.
Because the reality of what’s on offer (you) can’t match the hype. The pitch can’t succeed on merit, so social pressure is needed. Leaning harder on someone else’s generosity. So it feels forced.
An alternative is to overwhelm others with so much care and delight. To show up with skills and resources to share, earning permission and trust. To read situations and offer things we don’t know that we need yet, without expectations.
“Kevin, I noticed that you’re launching a book soon. I have a podcast with a listener base of 5,000. I love to help you share it. We could do a 30mins interview or I can also make a list of learnings and share it with my audience. Thank you for all the work that you do.”
“Spencer, I love 12mins of your time to talk about growing my business. I do realise you are very busy and that your time is very important to you. So, I’m willing to pay you whatever you think it’s fair for that time. I just would like the opportunity to be able to get mentored by you. I’m not looking to waste it.
Sure, it might feel fake and tiring. You don’t have the energy and time. But the good news is you only need 5 people.
It’s easy to see which strategy might work for you in the long run.