The #1 Dating Expert in South East Asia, Violet Lim

Violet Lim is the co-founder and CEO of Lunch Actually, the largest dating company in South East Asia, which started humbly in Singapore. Since 2004, Lunch Actually has acquired 5 companies and now have offices in Kuala Lumpur, Penang, Hong Kong, Jakarta and Bangkok. She is also the CEO of esync, an online-to-offline dating platform and LunchClick, a dating app that prides itself on disallowing the messaging function.

Violet is also the president of Matchmaking Institute in Singapore and President of Entrepreneurs’ Organization (EO) Singapore. She is also the first Asian to be certified by the Matchmaking Institute, United States (New York).

When Singapore was looking to solve the falling birth rates’ issue, she is one of the “go-to” person to discuss the topic.

For busy professionals who are looking for that special someone, Violet and her team at Lunch Actually will help you. The first consultation is complimentary – contact them here.

In this conversation, we spoke about

  • How to increase the odds of successful dates
  • How Violet kickstarted Lunch Actually
  • Violet’s advice on when to commit to a marriage
  • and much more!


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Show Notes

Why is Violet Lim always wearing purple? [0:00:47]
How did Violet Lim meet Jamie? [0:03:19]
What was the vision of Lunch Actually when it first started? [0:09:13]
Why did Violet decide to change her degree of study midway? [0:12:36]
How did Violet get her first round of investment, $150K for Lunch Actually? [0:18:48]
As a manager, how does Violet strike the balance between being firm and friendly? [0:24:21]
What is the process that Violet uses to find and hire great people? [0:30:36]
Violet Lim shares Lunch Actually subsidiary services?[0:39:18]
When did Violet take the stance of “abundance”? [0:48:17]
How did Violet grow her company through acquisition [0:52:00]
Why beautiful and successful woman finish last in dating? [0:57:08]
Violet Lim shares insight about “Lust at first sight” [1:10:23]
Violet Lim shares advice to increase your dating odds [1:21:08]
What are questions that one should ask themselves before “starting to date”? [1:25:58]
What are some interesting data  Lunch Actually collected? [1:30:58]
What are some yardsticks to measure before one commits to a marriage? [1:38:34]
How should one think of divorce? [1:45:38]
How did Violet Lim maintain the relationship with Claire Chiang? [1:50:38]

Links Mentioned

Connect with Violet Lim:
Website | Blog | Twitter | Facebook

Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others by  John T. Molloy
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
“Courage” Band by The Mindful Company

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Big thank you to Violet Lim. Until next time!

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