This is the best way → this is the best way for me but it might not be for you
My way is the only way to solve the problem → my way is a way to solve the problem
You should not do that → I won’t recommend that because of these reasons
Oversimplification → Simple enough and accurate
Success by luck → success by understanding and skill
Because the law/society/parent says so → because I’ve examined it and believe this as a better way for these reasons
I am at the effect of people, circumstances and environment → I have the agency to change my reality
I’m in control of my reality → I’m in control of some parts but not everything
Feelings are useless → feelings are additional data for decision making
We should desire one main thing (happiness, money, success, sex) → we have many desires and sometimes they are in conflict
Being an adult is more complicated than you think. The good news is the sooner you embrace it, the more accurate you’ll be, the faster you’ll get to where you want to go.
Thank you for championing the adult development theory, Jennifer.
