When my parent gave me advice, (to brush my teeth, sleep early, have better posture), I never followed.
Years after years, my back starts to hurt, painful visits to the dentist, and tired mornings, I suffered consequences of ignoring those advice.
But in between, it was unpleasant years of nagging.
The trouble is when we seek to help the people we love, we offer unsolicited advice. We rush, we didn’t get the full context. We forget that they don’t want what we want, they don’t see what we see, they don’t know what we do.
Good advice begins with enrolment. Where do you want to go? Are we on the same journey?
That’s the difference between unwanted and heartfelt advice.